Tell your family! Tell your friends! Be excited to share the news. Pick up the phone and make the calls. Have the special family dinner to announce it to the Aunts and the Uncles. Enlist your close relatives to help spread the word if your family is extensively large.
Use the opportunity to build strong relationships with your new in-laws. You are no longer dating, you are venturing into a new reality. So this is the time to make good impressions. A marriage is the melding of two people with two families. It is not always easy but it starts now. Have the parents meet (or connect with) each other, if they haven't already done so.
The first question out of most people's mouth is, "Have you set a date?" People love weddings. Your friends and family are expressing their enthusiasm. If you know you want to get married in the Summer or the Fall, let people who ask know that's what you're thinking. But don't rush into setting a date. There is a lot to be said for taking a moment (or a few moments, in fact) to just be engaged. Enjoy the occasion. Enjoy the change in your relationship. Enjoy the process.
Okay! Ready to start now? Great! First, set a budget and create a guest list. This will influence the entire process. Big or small, every wedding needs a budget to keep you on track. Have an honest conversation about the wedding and your expectations. Not only do you want to plan a wedding but a marriage that lasts. So start off on the right foot. Communicate and compromise so that you can have a successful engagement. Make a list of the must-haves for your wedding. This will help distribute the budget to the things that matter most to you as a couple. Remember the most important thing is that you are with the one you love. A wedding is a celebration of your love. Don't let your wedding day overshadow your marriage.
Next, set the date-ish. Two factors play a role in this important step. Your budget and the venue you choose. Saturday weddings are prime. Fridays and Sundays can be a bit more cost effective. Mid-week weddings, such as those held on holidays, can offer even larger financial incentives. Very often the final date is determined by the venue's availability.
Do you have a great engagement story you want to share? I would love to hear all about it.
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